AN ARTICLE ON THE CAUSES OF DIVORCE IN OUR SOCIETY

LIGOM ROSELINE

KUW/U14/MCM/2005

AN ARTICLE ON THE CAUSES OF DIVORCE IN OUR SOCIETY

          Divorce is a situation whereby legally married couple separates or dissolves their matrimony. Divorce can be carried out in law court, but can also be decided by the couple. These days the issue of divorce has become the rule rather than the exception so many-things are responsible.

          Foremost is infidelity. This is a situation where either of the couple engages in extra marital affairs in most cases those affairs end up in pregnancy, giving rise to children outside matrimony. Most men or women cannot bear the sight of their husbands  or wives keeping a lover outside, let alone bringing a child from outside into the family this more than anything else, is responsible for the rising wave of divorce in our society secondly impotence accounts for some of the divorce today . some couples stay for as long as five years or more before getting children in most cases the main threatens or even sacks the wife and marries another three wives simply because they have not been able to give birth to males. The present state of the economy has no doubt contributed to some women. Divorcing their husbands, & going in search of greener pastures every day we hear stories of women abandoning their husbands and children, and going into prostitution, just to make ends meet. Such women must have been fed up with deteriorating standard of living in their families as result of bad economy. Furthermore, alcoholism cannot be ruled out as far as divorce is concerned. There have been several instances of men coming  back late in the night drunk more often than not wives of such men receive severe beating at the slightest provocation.   Wives, who cannot continue to cope with this daily beating but bolt away never to return alcohol has rendered so many men unproductive and irresponsible, they can no longer cater for the family, because no sooner do they receive their pay than they deposit it with the barman most woman call it quit after they can’t cope feeding the children as their husband’s have proved incorrigible. Again intolerance hs broken so many homes most people do not know that to be able to stay together both husband and wife must be able to tolerate each other. No one is angle. Everyone has virtues as well as vices and people should understand this.  If both husband and wife really love each other then the should be able to overlook some of each other bad aspects people should therefore be physically and psychologically mature before marrying as immature couples have not been known to be tolerant.

          Another factor rocking marriages today is women liberation. In these days when women feel enslaved & want to be set free activities towards this freedom have ended in divorce. So many men can’t bear to share. Equal right with their wives neither. Can they keep quiet when their wives shy away from their divine duties most women have forgotten that the man is the head of the family, and that the women should submit herself to the man when the women begin to assert freedom and equality with man it usually ends in physical combat a situation capable of making the women pack.