WHY MARRIAGES ARE CRASHING

                      WHY MARRIAGES ARE CRASHING

Marriage is ordained by God and is one of the greatest institutions in life. The earliest form of marriage was from the Garden of Eden. Marriage is serious institution that needs not to be entered without deep thought and proper preparations, this is the reason why pre-marital counseling is organized for intending marriage couples, so as to enable them know the nithygritties involved in marriage.

  Many people have different motives and reasons why they marry or why they want to marry, some of the reasons are that they want to bear children, they don’t want to be alone, they want to be called a married man or woman (mr or mrs), some men marry just because they don’t know how to cook, while some marry because their friends are marrying or they saw other people getting married, some are carried away by the flamboyant celebrations they saw in different weddings.

   Regardless of religion, age, educational background or size, marriage companionship, is at about relationships, and not about bearing children. Just like the typical Africans have it at the bottom of their hearts, after marriage, if the wife is unable to bear children, she faces different ordeals and it may eventually lead to divorce.

Things that are obtainable in courtship or relationship, are different from realities of marriage, some young people who are dating one another are short sighted and believe that marriage is like courtship and so marriage is like a bed of roses, but little they know that it is something else.

Peer pressure, parental pressure, and pressure from the family and relatives rushes some people who get into marriage without adequate preparations, while some get into marriage because of lust and infatuation. Unwanted pregnancies lead many couples to early marriages, they marry not because they truly love each other, but because of the pregnancy.

Marriage in Christianity is a contract, unlike other religion but can divorce his wife for infidelity, according to the Law of Moses, but when Jesus the Messiah came, he preached forgiveness. Regardless of the marriages that are broken. The reasons are not farfetched. It ranges from disobedience by wives, lack of parental training, listening to friend’s bad advices, emulating other couples, gossips among other reasons. Other women are involve in infidelity because some women imitate other wealthy women and try to have their own kind of fashion, some women are not contented with what they are given by their husbands. They battle for supremacy by some women with their husbands because of civilization causes divorce. The issue of equal rights is a problem that leads to divorce. If a woman is unable to bear children for her husband, she will be in a serious trouble which may lead to trauma and depression amongst many other issues.

  Some men are divorced by their wives for failing to live up to their responsibilities of providing basic necessities like food, clothing, shelter, e.t.c. while some men are divorced by their wives because of excessive drinking of alcohol. Some are chained smokers some are flirts who sleep with women outside of wedlock, some men are engaged in battery, they beat and injured their wives, some are chronic liars, and some men totally neglect their wives and children to the mercy of God, while some families live on charity. These and many other reasons lead to divorce of men by women. As far as Christianity is concerned all these are trivial issues because Jesus taught forgiveness as one of the cardinal pillars of Christianity, because he first of all loved us and forgave us, and He died for us even while we were sinners. When no one else was seeking God, we were all lost like sheep without a shepherd and Jesus said even if your sins are as black as a scarlet, when we come to him we will be forgiven. He also said “come to me all you who are weary and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” Jesus also though so many parables on forgiveness.

Like the woman who was caught committing adultery when the people brought her to Jesus and asked him what kind of sanction be meted to her, Jesus wrote on the ground that whoever is without sin should first cast a stone on her. They all left from the old to the young, and Jesus did not condemn her but forgave her and asked her never to commit such sin so that the worst thing may not happen to her. No matter what the situation is, divorce is not the answer but forgiveness can heal wounds and the broken hearted.

  Divorce does more evil than good because broken homes breeds hooligans and hoodlums as well as reliable citizens, so to err is human and to forgive is divine, marriages is for better for worst. “When the going get though the though get going”.

                                                           

                                                               BY, NUHU FLORENCE U14MCM2021